Need outside world to be pretty in order to feel ok

I absolutely need outside world to be ok in order for me to feel ok. I don't connect to a lot of people, i just don't really talk to a lot of people. Then i got questioned: why don't you put effort to connect with people first, in order to receive , you need to give, right? Right! the problem is i often find its hard for me to pay a lot of effort to connect with people that i don't feel connected. Either they can be awesome, but i feel far away from me or not feel connection, or it can be so friendly, but i feel not alike, in another word, i don't like to be their friend, I literally snob them. There are a lot of my limitations based on this. I don't connect with people in fashion because of this. I don't want to go for class based on this, even my relationship also. Do you feel the same struggle?