THE POWER OF NOW, GREAT BOOK, GREAT INSIGHTS

I was in a personal development program for a while. Ever since, my growing has been stuck at certain point, then I started to talk to all the coaches about my issues. It all came with one answer: try to feel, Theresa, just feel. I almost wanted to yell at all of them" stop saying that, I am feeling it, in fact, I am feeling too much that I feel my pain and worry all the time". Coach continues: no, you are in your stories, stop story telling, feel it , just feel". As much as the coach frustrated with me, I feel more even frustrated about my inner growth problem. Not until I read the book from Eckhart Tolle: The Power of Now. It basically tells you to stay at the moment and how to stay at the moment. We are all living in the past and future. Judging everything around you and analysis of all the situation, plan a future that doesn't exist and change your emotions based on something may not be true. All of those emotions that are make your life miserable are either dwell from the past or analysis from the future. It is actually the result of intelligence . Smarter and more educated people like that. Only an analysis results will make them less shaky or more certain about what is going to happy. They are not the truth and not the fact, doesn't exist. The real power is now, this very moment and second just passing by your life. The moment creates the future.

LESS JUDGING, MORE FACTS

I am recently dating a guy on line, met him once, very attractive, luckily, he is thinking me the same way. In the first week, we texted each other all the time. We finally decide to meet again at one point, so when we actually had a few drinks. My initial plan was not to meet him or meeting him for one quick drink. But we started to make out, then one thing lead to another... After that, he didn't text in about days. Sounds familiar? Logically, I tried to be this self centered cool girl that doesn't really need a relationship, very happy with the choice of had one fun night, and absolutely no expectations. But the truth is the fact he didn't text back in 2 days drove me crazy. I started to ask all my close girl friends. Funny things, I start to realize all the opinion is the reflection of their own life experience and their own projection. Divorced girlfriend ask me not to trust man easily, of course he is not interested in you any more. Asian culture girlfriend is blaming me to be too easy to give away myself; western culture girlfriend suggests me to shut off my mind and enjoy myself. I am still not sure what the real answer should me. Because there is no answer at all. I started to even google of the fact that how man usually act when they get what they want and all the so called " rules" in this " must follow" social conduct. I started to judge, analyze and predict all of his actions and languages, and also trust my girl friends so much for what they said. I totally giving away my power to other people. Isn't that my responsibility for my own reactions? Happy or nervous, anxious are all up to me. I had been so reactive to this situation. All of that is based on the self image protection or fear of loss , simply just missing data. Then I clear my thought a bit , simply decide that I want to send him a text for myself, if he doesn't answer, move on. simple like that. How many time our mind trick us like this?

DISTRACTION OF SELF IMAGE

I had a lot emotional break down in the last few days, not sure why. I listed a few moment where my emotion start to change. I realized that whenever i don't have a connection with others or imaging i was viewed differently or even ugly in front of others, or stupid or fat whatever i felt " NOT ME" moment, i felt crushed. I guess the conclusion is self image distraction. I care about my self image, just really want what i think of myself is also what other people think. If not, feel the whole world is not under my control anymore. Why do i care about self image, i guess it is very personal, i care, i am sure a lot of people do as well. What is reality? What if the version of myself in others are really bad in reality, how that has anything to do with me? Can i try hard to improve myself to please other's project of their own life. Can i ever get to their head to change their program of seeing things? If not, should i punish myself for it? So i often feel people are angry with me for something i don't remember i did or said. They are upset, Period. The only way i possibly can change might be our way of communication, the way to speak, the tone to speak, i know even though, it is also hard to void their projection as well, at least, that would make your life a big easier. Instead of changing yourself, try to enhance the communication skills.

I feel extremely suppressive towards similar background successful people. Almost lik3 i can only be friend with someone who has problems. I am not sure how to connect with a joyful happy individuals,unless they can come to me and donaye all their attention and lovw, then we can be friends. Otherwise,show me your weaknesses, let me help, we can connect. If you ate fucking successful ,hapoy all the time, you are fake ingenuine person, and i dont talk to those person. God,so.limiting!p

Where is the anger coming from? are we able to switch it over

I am very angry right now, the more people around me telling me with their pitty eyes: are you ok? i just want to know you are fine and you are loved? The more people come around me with their hugs, the more defines i get. What the F##k! Is everybody brain washed sometimes? If you have to relation to my personal life, never pay attention about who i am and what i do, and now you called for a huge care and love andhen ask me to pay money for something thing? Not working that way? Then i thought where is that anger coming from, is it really those people annoyed me ? Or i annoyed myself to block me from accepting new care and new way of love. Is" you have to know my story and follow me on facebook all the time, know how awesome i am and connect with me, then i can accept your help" even making sense? A lot of questions.

Feeling missed out

I was trying to push my limitations to get day off for this trip. At the same time, it is very difficult to push. But i am usually a person go for what i want. I am not sure exactly why. Why i m not push myself for something else, why feeling so strongly for this one. What i realized is my motivation towards not fear. but i am using all motivation from fear not towards. That is not a good decision. I am afraid to be left out for some thing really valuable and good. That is fear without realizing the real good value of this trip on my own.

Anger is a good expression

I am hiding it from everybody, i am angry for not growing, and i am blaming people not to help me grow. The truth is, i am not showing it, even typing it now knowing someone will read it doesn't matter how many, i am automatically trying to polish my words and hide inner self again. Yes, i am this fake person, always try to bring the best of me in front of people. To express, to learn to feel is the no one lesson i have to learn. That may be will also help me with my fashion career.